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Oct 9, 2023Liked by Anne Kadet

The night before, I created an elaborate chart with 484 color-coded cells to designate what activity combinations were allowed and what was forbidden:"

Proving conclusively that Anne Kadet is the current and future Tsarina of Spreadsheets!

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Oct 9, 2023Liked by Anne Kadet

"The correct answer: 557. That’s 8.6 comments per issue!"

In a country that doesn't discriminate between fame and infamy, I've always felt the latter presents itself as plainly more achievable.

At age 70, just when I thought that I had accumulated as much infamy as a person could, I find that the combination of digital technology and an impish blonde from NYC, could tap into a motherload of infamy that I never knew existed in me. Was the lowest circle in Hades, infamy? Sigh...

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Oct 9, 2023Liked by Anne Kadet

I think commuting without listening to music or a podcast would be downright TERRIBLE. I hate hate hate when i have to listen to someone's phone call or someone hacking up a lung. That one would get me. Sipping my morning coffee while catching up on the news is my bread and butter. Couldn't imagine not doing it!

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Oct 9, 2023Liked by Anne Kadet

pls write about "rat heaven" for the next 5-7 issues.

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I thought of another ‘real New Yorker’ question: “Are you on a first name basis with the Naked Cowboy?” +100 points. Love the illustration of you, Anne!

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ANNE. I am so excited. I came in dead last in your Real New Yorker contest. ✊🏽 😁 It is only up from here. ☝🏽

PS- I love your meditation exercise of just doing 1 thing. Listening, smelling, watching, just be for a little while. Are we calm enough to notice the grasshopper 🦗at our feet. 🙏🏽

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Your week made my day. I have so many food intolerances that to limit anything else in my life is unacceptable. I am gearing up for a cold shower. I’ve been hearing about all the health benefits and am intrigued. I need to gear up before taking the “plunge.”

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I love this! Especially this: "The salt shaker on the counter, the white lilies in their glass vase, the animal painting over my desk are all happily expressing themselves for my enjoyment." I won't soon forget that line/image/concept/TRUTH.

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From Thursday’s entry: ‘my life consists mainly of hanging out with friends and family, writing this silly blog and volunteering at a meditation center.’ Am I really the only one to pick up on this? It is the word ‘silly’. Without it there would be nothing to think or say, but once you drop in the word ‘silly’ I imagine a slightly hesitant you, feeling surrounded by the enormity of it all; the raised expectations you have created, of yourself and among your readers - which is why I am so full of admiration for what you are doing. Go at your pace. It’s your blog and the likes of I come along for the ride - not to be backseat drivers giving directions. Regards aka Kevin 🐰

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Oct 10, 2023Liked by Anne Kadet

I love your experiment in doing only one thing at a time. I’ve been working on this too and realize that it helps me fully experience the present moment. I like how it simplifies my sometimes too complicated life. Be here now!

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A week of single-minded focus is really impressive! I'm guessing your time at the meditation center laid a pretty good foundation. Good to hear you are still reaping the benefits!

I had a co-worker who used to play a game every time I took a subway ride with her. It entailed trying to figure out who would take charge of the car in the event of some kind of disaster. She concocted these complicated hierarchies and power struggles among the disparate riders in the train. It made the ride between 96th and Clark fly by.

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I clean my teeth before going to bed and spit out the gunge, then use a mouthwash to sweeten me up for the night and clean the wash-hand basin on autopilot as I go. I do a good few things on autopilot, and I’m someone who does what you did for a week all the time. What do you do on autopilot? 🐰

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Oct 9, 2023·edited Oct 9, 2023Liked by Anne Kadet

RE MULTI-TASKING :: You know my opinion on the multi-tasking. I rationalize the important thing is differentiating between the nonsense our primitive lizard brain can do and the thoughtful stuff in the front. I think multi-tasking is fine as long as we aren't trying to do two front-brain things at the same time. FWIW it is not possible according to our knowledge of the mind. All we can possibly do is pause task 1, start task 2 and then do the opposite when we start freaking out and get dissatisfied with the quality. Hope this opinion doesn't spoil the fun. This is the secret sauce of social media as it engages our primitive self and we reduce complexity and consideration to thumbs up or thumbs down. This is what made the Emperor so popular in the Colosseum. Kudos to you for creating a colorful cross-tab. Wow!

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"The correct answer: 557. That’s 8.6 comments per issue! The closest guess—540 comments—came from Mark D. in Minnesota, who happens to be our second most frequent commenter, with 389 total comments. Takes one know one, haha!" -- Seeing that I was 2nd to JRB made me laugh. The response of a rube would be to hire a personal trainer to up my comment count. I defer as I am glad to be a poor 2nd to JRB -- I can now feel okay that I am not commenting too much!!! I have a constant churn of Substacks and I often unsubscribe unless (1) they bring joy (2) they are not incessant self-promoters (3) I am constantly surprised by the topic. When a Substack manages all three I try hard to comment and support. Cafe Anne makes that very easy.

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I'm so glad you shared your experiment results with us! I want the tornado in my brain to stop. But do I actually have the discipline not to multi-task? I don't think I could go cold-turkey like you did, but I think I could probably make some small changes. Like no multi-tasking while eating meals. I have a hunch that would make a big difference!

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Oct 9, 2023Liked by Anne Kadet

This edition of Cafe Anne was so chock full of interesting things that I had to comment on. I apologize to everyone! Try as I might I can't stop commenting. I'm purposely not finishing this comment so that it can count for the 0.6

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